Why I Do Not Believe in Premarital Sex, Alcohol and Parties

Anh Dao - Perth, Scotland

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Hi everyone,

My name is Anh-Dao and I would like to share with you why I don´t believe in sex before marriage, drinking alcohol or taking drugs.

I was 14 when I got saved and I am really grateful that God saved me before my "teenage life" had really begun, I assume that my teenage life would have been quite different as I am a chirpy and extravert person. 

During my school years many of my classmates started to have boyfriends, that of course led me to think of having a boyfriend as well, undoubtedly, I was tested and tempted, but I knew in my heart that this was wrong, and I knew in the back of my mind that God has someone in store for me.
I started studying books such as "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris and "Preparing to be a Helpmeet" by Debi Pearl that made me realize that a serious relationship requires a lot of work. In the end a serious relationship is a commitment to the other person and I am sure that I was not mature enough and able to make that commitment as a teenager.

Just as a rose, love takes its time to blossom and we cannot force it to show its full beauty whenever we want it to (taken from an anonymous poet). I sort of clicked to the point that God is the one who decides to whom I will belong to, and until then I just need to trust in His timing and rather get prepared.
God is the Creator of the Universe, which also indicates that He is the inventor of romance, how exciting to know that God has chosen the right partner for me and YOU already! By the way, we are so young. There is no reason to rush, let us enjoy our time being single and concentrate on what's important now!

ISAIAH 55:8-9:"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

Sex before marriage
If you think of the greatest gift a woman can give to her partner, would it not be her virginity? Obviously, hardly anyone believes in purity before marriage anymore. It appears to me that sex has turned into a "competition" that turned God´s holy gift for us into a terrible sin. I spoke to my married friends in church and some of them had premarital experiences (before they got converted) and they really regret it now. The advice I heard often is that it is worth waiting. Love is patient.

1 CORINTHIANS 13:5:"(Charity) Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil.”
Please don´t condemn yourself if you have lost your virginity already, the blood of Jesus Christ covers your sins, but the next step is for you is to give up your life by repenting, getting baptised and receiving the Holy Spirit according to the Scriptures in ACTS 2:38.

Alcohol and Parties
I went to a few birthday parties where alcohol was consumed to excess. To speak frankly, I was shocked by people´s behaviour: boys approaching girls in an 'inappropriate' way, people revealing things about themselves (as you know drunk people do not lie), etc. I saw shy people turning into 'wild' dancers, which made me realize that alcohol is used by some adolescents to overcome their own inhibitions, as well as to put themselves in a seemingly cheerful mood. Of course it might be fun, but does that fun last? Do you feel lonely after a party? I did. Once the music is turned off and everyone went home, I felt alone.  God opened my eyes and I understood that parties are self-destructive as they are deceiving in the sense that they put you into an "artificially happy mood".  Music is a big tool to put you into another mood (click here for my testimony). It is really powerful, either in a good or bad way. 
Nevertheless, I still go out with friends, we do not necessarily 'party', but rather have a nice time together, you don't need alcohol to enjoy yourself and it is much better without!

Do not care what your friends think you should do! It is your body, soul and spirit, not theirs. You choose for yourself. Please do not destroy your God-given body with impurity. There is a better way, He wants to bless us so much, but we need to obey Him! For your own sake choose purity!

I would like to close my testimony with this wise poem:

"We need to teach our daughters the difference between
 A man who flatters her
and a man who compliments her.
A man who spends money on her
and a man who invests in her.
A man who views her as property
and a man who views her properly.
A man who lusts after her
and a man who loves her.
A man who believes He is God´s Gift to women
and a man who remembers
a woman was God´s Gift to man.
And then teach our sons to be that kind of man."

Feel free to contact me if you have any questions, comments etc.

Much Love
Anh Dao



Amen , your writing leads to understand that you know what you want and that you are good to coach other people with the awesome guidance of the Holy Spirit and The Word of God . Love u Anh Dao! From a Christian 18 year old girl !

May God refresh you in wisdom, the Trent is growing worst in africa especially Nigeria. Pls join us in prayer and post more articles dealing with effects of teenage pregnancy. Stay bless

Thanks for your message. Will keep the situation in Nigeria in prayer. I will try to fulfill your request on uploading articles about the effect of tennage pregnancy. Much Love in Christ, Anh Dao

hey thats very encouraging...i read your testimony and i totally agree with it..its good to find someone you share ideas and thoughts with...i pray God gives you the strength to keep holding on

Hi Fredrick Mang'ula,
thank you very much for your lines. They are much appreciated and uplifting! Let us hold on to God´s ideas of marriage etc., so that we can be a light to those who haven´t met God yet. I will keep you in prayer as well. Again, thank you for your lines! In His Love, Anh Dao

yeah lets keep praying. God NEVER disappoints

Hi there,
thanks for reading my testimony.
God knows best when we are ready for a relationship. Great to read about your aim and please keep it up. Whenever, it may get tough think of that Scripture "There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful , who will not suffer you to be tempted ABOVE THAT YE ARE ABLE; but will with the temptation also make a WAY TO ESCAPE, that ye may be able to BEAR IT." (1st Corinthians 10:13)
Take care,
Anh Dao

hi - i'm 15 and have read "i kissed dating goodbye" too.

i definitely do NOT want to run the risk of sexual activity so will wait until at least 18 before courting.