Teen Questionnaire

Welcome to the ‘Questionnaire’ page! We asked a guy and a girl to answer the questions below. To keep it anonymous we gave them fictional names. We hope that you can get something out of this and maybe even challenge your friends with some of the questions...

A little note: if you click on the subject/title, this will bring you straight to a testimony from teenagers who went through or experienced the same things. 

Olivia

God makes it very clear to us that He doesn’t want us to drink alcohol or have anything to do with it: it’s strictly forbidden. It seems as if the discussion ends here already; if God says we should steer clear of alcohol, then it would probably be a good idea to do so, because the consequences of disobeying God’s Word are very grave indeed. The Bible says in GALATIANS 5:21 - “Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings and such like: of the which I tell you before as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.” This scripture speaks for itself.

God puts these commandments in place for a reason. He doesn’t just want to spoil all our fun, as much as it seems like it at the time. God really does love us a lot, more than we could ever imagine. The Bible says that God loves us like a father loves his son - 2 CORINTHIANS 6:18. And this is why God has put certain commandments in place: to protect us. When God commanded us to stay away from alcohol, it was because He knew what terrible things alcohol could do, and Satan is using alcohol as a tool to separate people from Christ. There are plenty of examples in the Bible and even now where we can see that those that drink alcohol are eventually separated from God.

It’s a well-known fact that drinking large amounts of alcohol is extremely damaging for our health. You’d be surprised at just how many diseases are caused by alcohol alone and we are therefore slowly but surely destroying our bodies (See link for more information https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohol-health/alcohols-effects-body). Nobody likes to be sick, and God doesn’t want it for us either. Many people say that if God really was true then why was he letting them die of some horrible disease. But in most cases, they haven’t been following the commandments, the commandments that God put in place to protect us.  In the garden of Eden, Adam and Eve disobeyed God, and it was because of their disobedience that death came about.

But this is not the only reason. When someone gets drunk they can lose total control over their body. Alcohol changes people in a bad way and I have only experienced bad things with drunk people. In my opinion, you can have much more fun without alcohol, especially by spending quality time with good friends. The Bible says in EPHESIANS 5:18 - “And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit.” There is much more action and excitement when you experience miracles through the Holy Spirit who lives in us. For me, it’s way more important to enter the kingdom of God for eternity than being drunk, having ‘fun’ for one night, and then waking up the next day confused and ill.

James

Many people know that alcohol is bad for the body. I mean, we get taught this at school. But then I’ve heard people say “Oh just a little bit isn’t bad” - but sin progresses if it is not subdued in its early stage. It’s like a river; it starts off as a little stream, which then leads to the river. The point is that one needs to direct the stream before it grows bigger and becomes harder to divert (read about JONAH).

It says in the Bible that we as Christians are made “kings and priests” - REVELATION 1:6 - this is a privilege, but a responsibility too. Let’s have a quick look at what God says about strong drinks and giving an account for our actions: God says in Proverbs 31:4 that “…it is not for kings to drink wine; nor for princes strong drink.” What does that have to do with me? Well, as a Christian, God sees me as a prince and I am responsible to make correct judgments for myself and those around me. Which links into another scripture that says: “… they are swallowed up of wine, they are out of the way through strong drink; they err in vision, they stumble in judgment.” - ISAIAH 28:7.

Alcohol is not the answer; it just makes you forget the question.

 

I know that alcohol is something that people lean on, especially young kids and teens. They think drinking links to fun and solves all their worries and troubles. When really, the troubles aren’t going anywhere – “Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts” – PROVERBS 31:6.

What does the Bible actually say about alcohol?

 
 
Books on this topic: I Kissed Dating Goodbye (Joshua Harris) and Preparing to be a Helpmeet (Debi Pearl)
 

Olivia

I think it’s always a good idea to take a look at what God says first: We should abstain from fornication - 1 THESSALONIANS 4:3. This command to not have sex before marriage is spread all over the Bible. Why does God not want us to have sex before marriage? Well, there are some very good reasons! Firstly, if you’re not prepared to take care of a baby, you shouldn’t be having sex. Then there’s all the diseases that can be spread by having sex with various different people (this can be very dangerous). Then there’s also the emotional effects because as a teenager you are not actually emotionally ready to have sex. When two people get intimate, the brain releases chemicals that induce feelings of attachment and trust. Having sex outside of a marriage means that you allow your body to attach and trust someone who you do not have a committed relationship with which can set you up for disappointment and failure.

However, purity is so much more than just not having sex before marriage. It starts off with our thoughts. Jesus said that if we allow sexual fantasies, we may as well be having sex - MATTHEW 5:28. It makes perfect sense, because actions always start off with a thought (PROVERBS 6:23-27and sin always separates you from God (ISAIAH 59:2,7). You can probably tell what happens next…

Satan is alive and kicking in this world today and he will do anything he can to stop us from having fellowship with God- and he is very good at it!

As impossible as it may seem, God does make it possible for us to be pure (1 CORINTHIANS 10:13because no temptation is too strong that you can’t overcome it. We can also do certain things that will help us overcome temptation.” This may mean avoiding certain situations, films and music- I would definitely watch out for this one, music is a very sly tool that Satan uses, just listen carefully to what they are actually singing! After not listening to it for a couple of weeks, or even a few days, you’ll feel a big difference. Another thing is that girls underestimate just how great an impact the way we dress can have. Whenever we chose an outfit, it’s nearly always determined by how pretty, revealing and sexy we look. Isn’t it? Because we want attention. But we are giving guys a very hard time by causing them to sin! And anyway, that isn’t real attention. Women should look for a better kind of attention, because we are above such things. I would much rather marry someone because he loved me, and not for the way I looked. As they say “real beauty comes from the inside…”

James

For me it means to be separate from anything that stops me from being close to God. We must remember that we are sons (and daughters) of God and that we should purify ourselves, as He is pure - 1 JOHN 3:2-3. We are also called royal and holy by God, so we should behave accordingly - 1 PETER 2:9. Also, it means that we should stay away from sin, small or great and sinful thoughts or actions - 2 CORINTHIANS 6:17. “Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.” 2 CORINTHIANS 7:1 “Because we have these promises we should make sure to stay pure.” - MATTHEW 5:8.

3. What do you think about being in a relationship?

Olivia

I know that God has a plan for my life. He has everything mapped out already - JEREMIAH 1:5; JEREMIAH 29:11. This is a wonderful thought, because it means we don’t need to worry about anything! I personally think that God will give us this huge love for our future partners. He has everything under control and says in MATTHEW 6:8 that our Father in heaven knows what we need and desire before we ask Him.

I know from my own experience that one can get a bit impatient and want to rush into a relationship. But romantic relationships should always have an end purpose and shouldn’t be just for “fun” or we are playing with our emotions. Many teenagers get into relationships at a really young age and this is where many people get caught up in the worldly definition of romance. This is often the kind or ‘love’ that dies away very quickly, and can lead to grief at a very young and fragile age. I think we should appreciate our singleness and take it as a time to prepare for marriage. God says there is a season for every purpose, and I think singleness is a very important season.

James

To start this off, I would like to state that there is no such thing as friendship/dating between a man and a woman mentioned in the Bible. Which for me, means that there should not be a difference between the friendship of a man and a woman as two guys or two girls being friends. You might think that sounds weird! But, what I mean to say is that when you have two friends with a common goal they grow closer and form a bond. Take the perspective of dating from the world; it’s all about what you can get for yourself, how you can make the other person do things for you, rather than looking out how to help them or see where they need real help and love. Look at the 12 disciples of Jesus, they were brought together by Jesus for a common purpose a common goal, which was to follow and learn from Him.

That should be our drive and incentive in any and every relationship. This will also help keep the relationship between opposite sexes safe and on the straight and narrow path. Because, if your focus is on God, then it is not based on your lusts and fleshly needs. 

Relationships are nice and fun but they are also hard work; it’s a commitment and if you do not have God to lean and focus on then I can grantee you that your relationship with whomever you are with will fail. You might not be able to trust anyone but you can trust God and can be sure in your heart that if you friend/partner loves and trusts God too then they will love you, which in turn mean you can trust them.

There is a lot more to it than what I have written so I would recommend looking further into it and reading some of our theme sheets on Christian relationships.

You might also be interested in looking into what makes a true friend. Click here.                   

4. What does "light of the world" mean to you?

Olivia

“Preach the Gospel at all times. When necessary, use words.”

This comes from MATTHEW 5:14 - "Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set upon a hill cannot be hid." It is interesting to note that Jesus declared himself as the light of the world (JOHN 8:12). If we are the light of the world, this means that we represent Jesus, Jesus dwells in us! We may be the only Bible that people read (through our actions).

I think this quote describes wonderfully how we are meant to be a light to the world through our actions and not always by preaching in words.

James

First of all, who is the main light? Jesus Christ is the Light (JOHN 8:12) and He is the author and finisher of our faith (HEBREWS 12:2), so naturally we look to him for guidance as to how to be the light. We are also ambassadors of Christ (2 CORINTHIANS 5:20), so we should act accordingly, following His example to be a testimony to the people around us. In PHILIPPIANS 2:15 Paul writes, “That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world;” This means that we ought to be separated from the world, with a clear distinction between us Christians (light) and the world (darkness) (GENESIS 1:4)

5. How would you overcome trials with God?

Olivia

I think it’s important to realise that we shouldn’t be discouraged if we are going through trials, it is totally normal, in fact, expected (JAMES 1:2-4). And there are plenty of things to do that will help to get through them! I think it’s important to actively do stuff that will help you to overcome trials and to not just sit and wait, because that won’t get you anywhere.

  • Pray about it. Bring all worries before the Lord and trust in Him! I think this should be the first thing one should do - MARK 11:24.

  • Talk to older people and get advice; they have way more experience and have probably been through similar trials - EXODUS 28:3.
  • Have a friend, who you can talk to about your problems - JAMES 5:16.

  • Read the Bible. Find scriptures on what you are struggling with. Quote those scriptures and believe them!
  • Control your mind. This is where the majority of sin begins - 2 CORINTHIANS 10:5.

  • Realise that there is no need to be trapped by sin because Jesus died on the cross and took all our sins to the cross. If we surrender to Christ, sin will NOT have dominion over us - ROMANS 6:1-14. You have the power to overcome; God gives you the strength - 1 JOHN 4:4.

  • Praise Him! This may seem hard to do when you are going through trials. Click here if you'd like to read more about PRAISE.

James

Prayer is the key to overcoming trials and challenges. Get close to God and have his Word live in you: 1 JOHN 4:4. Christ in you is stronger than any trials that Satan pushes in front of you. Trust Christ that he has overcome Satan, won your battle, what you need to do though, is claim the victory by confessing the promises in the Bible and praying. JOHN 16:33 & 1 JOHN 5:4,5 - "For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith. Who is he that overcometh the world, but he that believeth that Jesus is the Son of God?" Another good point to remember is that many Christians around you will have had similar difficulties so ask for advice and guidance. “And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony ...” - REVELATION 12:11. 

                                          

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